The face of a healthy relationship

The other day my fiancee' and I were talking when I asked him a question. The question was "How do you know what a healthy relationship is when you have never seen or been in one?" My thought was too that if I have already been through a divorce, what makes me think I could possibly make another marriage work? Well he took time and thought about what I had asked him. He then wrote about it and sent a response to me via e-mail. He gave me permission to share it in my blog and I will do so now.....

The other day I was asked a question, "How do you know what a healthy relationship looks like, if you have never seen one?" My first thought was, she must be crazy asking me this question. I come from a single parent family (father’s death, not divorce) and have failed at my marriage attempt. I am the last person who would know how a healthy relationship looks. I thought about the question for a couple of days. So what constitutes a healthy relationship? Being an avid reader, I have read many books on relationships. These books although different, basically say the same thing. A healthy relationship is based on four things: love, commitment, communication, and trust. Wow, is that why my marriage failed. There was no commitment, no communication, no trust, and if there was any love it was destroyed long before the marriage was over. Let’s put this to the test. The only good marriage I have seen up close and personal was my grandparents. Love, they loved each other deeply. Commitment, they were committed to each other and to God, Communication, they grew up in a very different time. The communication was mostly from my grandfather to grandmother. They were brought up to believe the man was the head of the house and his decisions were final. Trust, they trusted each other and they trusted God. The question was "How do you know if you have a healthy relationship if you have never seen one?" If you keep God in the center of your relationship and share a love and respect for each other, then the communication, commitment and trust come naturally. When I look at the relationship I am in now, I believe we have a healthy relationship. We love each other, are committed to the relationship, our communication is wonderful, we trust each other, and most importantly God is at the center of our relationship. We are a good example of a healthy relationship.

Wow...when I read that there were tears and I had my answer ..... we have love, commitment, communication and trust.....I have never seen or been involved in a relationship with all of these qualities....Do I think there will not be challenges? Oh I know there will be, but with Father God's help we will get through them......Let me challenge you my reader....If you are in a realationship put it to the test....is there love, commitment, communication and trust? If any of these are lacking, talk to the Father and trust me he will help you....after all he has your best interest in mind....